I used to laugh at this statement. I used to think "yeah... I would always set someone straight if they were talking smack about someone" but never really thought about having the person's back. It just seemed like the right thing to do.
And I am glad that I have such a great friend in Robin.
You see, Robin and I have *known* each other for quite some time. Our association began in Lincoln Stitch n' Stir (yeah... dorky name, I know .. I don't know if my Mom came up with that one or it was already there). It was a 4-H group. We didn't hang out or anything... we just knew that they other existed.
Our paths crossed yet again in high school/college when she was dating her now husband, Matt, and I was dating Matt's cousin, Bob. We didn't speak to one another at the Powell Christmas get togethers .. I don't know why. Mostly my fault, I think. I was told that Matt was the "quiet cousin" and I only assumed that his girlfriend was, too.
Years later, we met up again in church, and Robin made all the associations come clear. We were in the same Bible study, but not really too close yet. Now, we are building a friendship and a bond ... we share a lot in common ...
And when Matt's grandmother passed away over the weekend, I knew that she would be coming in contact with Bob, the ex. There was a curiosity that I had ... wondering if the subject that Robin and I are friends would be broached at any moment. And it was.
And Robin, thank you for having my back on that one. Apparently, my ex is under the assumption that I don't do anything but stay at home with my children, all TWO of them, and that I never did a thing with my law degree.
WHERE does he obtain his information? Probably from his Aunt Linda, who is still teaching at the same school where I graduated from. I am sure the conversations that they have had about me (which scares me that he knew a little too much more than I really thought he should know about me) were completely kind. I didn't leave the relationship under the best of circumstances, but those things happen.
I mean... the only thing I know about him is he is an architect (well, at least I *think* he is). I didn't know his wife's name, I didn't know how many kids he had (apparently two who don't get to watch tv... poor children will never know who SpongeBob SquarePants is), or where he is living.
Does it make me feel good that he has been trying to keep some kind of tab on me? Well ... I don't know. Because it was erroneous information, it bothers me. But now that he has been set straight by my pal, Robin, who had my back, I am loving every minute of it.